Before I had a baby, I HATED scrolling through my Facebook feed. It was like this.....Cool post, boring post, baby pic, baby pic, baby pic, baby pic. Everyone's babies looked exactly the same to me. I would outwardly groan. C'mon motherfuckers, how many shots can you post of your baby doing EXACTLY the SAME THING every single fucking day!!!!!! So rude. All of these parents posting baby pics totally cut into my self absorbed pre-baby routine. I really didn't give a shit that your kid smiled, or was wearing a cute outfit, or was having a birthday. I never hit the like button. I even considered hiding certain people from my feed. I hated baby pics. I would rather see 4,000 memes than another baby picture.
And then I had Jace. And I totally got it. I started genuinely looking at other parent's baby pictures. I actually enjoyed really studying them. Even looked forward to seeing a new barrage of pictures everyday.
There's three reasons why. The main one is, Until I became a parent, I simply could not comprehend the way you love a child. I am not a good enough writer to put it into words. I could never explain to someone who doesn't have children the feelings you get when you finally do.
Secondly, when you become a parent, you have a commonality with other parents. You enjoy seeing pictures of babies screaming, or puking or holding onto toys. Because you know the struggles those parents go through having that baby, and you also see yourself and your child in those pictures.
Lastly, whether you want to hear this or not, before you are a parent you are one self centered motherfucker. You have nooooo idea. You might say to yourself, I volunteer, I work with kids, I love animals, I head special needs olympics in third world countries. Doesn't matter. Swear to god, until you have a baby, you are super self centered. Just take stock of how many selfies you have posted. Enough said.
And it should be that way. There's nothing wrong with that. It's just par for the course.
So try to understand that when you see all of those damn baby pictures in your Facebook feed, it's so much more deep than another annoying baby shot.
And maybe some day your time will come and you will start posting baby pics too. If not though, try to walk in a mother's or father's shoes.
How can you get sick of so much love?
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