I really just want to take a minute to talk about this Jenny McCarthy thing. If you're reading this, you are probably a woman interested in child rearing. Or you're my brother Chris. Either way, you prolly know about Jenny McCarthy's huge campaign against Vaccines because she was sure they gave her son Autism. She has been in the media for the past ten years (give or take) talking about how bad Vaccines are for your children. No doubt, she has some followers, and has swayed many a woman into not vaccinating their child.
When I was 2 months pregnant, I worked a bullshit job for a bullshit company who bled poor, uneducated black folks of their settlement money. No lie. Needless to say, I quit there, because It takes a certain kind of person to be cool with that.
But while I was there, we'd often have a lot of time on our hands between unsuspecting clients. So I used those hours to research vaccines and there supposed hand in fucking up our children. I watched a lot of documentaries on Autism from vaccines. And it really scared me. And for a brief, hormone infected moment, I decided I would not vaccinate our child.
Then I realized those were very biased documentaries, made by very hurt, and angry mothers, looking for some way to quench their pain.
I seriously cannot even imagine going through the agony of having a child diagnosed with Autism. I bet I would look to place the blame on anything I could.
Then we had Jace, and we decided to Vaccinate him. I still don't know if it's the right thing, but I was too scared of the alternative. I'm not sure there's a right answer in this one. Once we had him, we loved him so much, we weren't willing to gamble with things like Whooping Cough or Mumps. Because those things could definitely kill him. While Autism is still super scary, he would not die from it, and it seemed like a risk Amanda and I were willing to take.
Now, I've said that, so I can say this.
On my Facebook feed this morning, women and men were blowing it up with angry rants about how stupid Jenny McCarthy is, and how she has made a huge stupid error, and how now all of these women has chosen not to get their children vaccinated, and it TURNS OUT HER SON DIDN'T EVEN HAVE AUTISM THIS WHOLE TIME!!! He unfortunately has a neurological issue, which now that Drs. know, they are working to correct. So everyone is mob style angry with Jenny McCarthy. I was for a nanosecond too, and then I put my mommy hat on.
So two things.
If you choose, or did not choose to vaccinate your child because of what Jenny McCarthy said....Then you're a fucking idiot. When it comes to your child's health, you should ALWAYS, ALWAYS do two things. Research, and then go with YOUR OWN mommy instinct. Or what I like to refer to it as Mommy Gut. What Jenny McCarthy decided for her own son, was her choice, not yours. You should never do something because a celebrity does it. Fucktards.
Now, the most important thing I want to say is this. Stop being a mean mom. It's bullshit, and it's nothing more than adult women being bullies, and I've been bullied my whole life, and I won't stand for it.
The woman made a mistake. Do you even get how stupid she must feel? How she is her own harshest critic, and how she is prolly beating herself up. Right now she's prolly laying in a dirty tee shirt funk. She prolly smells like french onion soup under her armpits, and she's prolly busy being super depressed and sobbing into her sons hair at night, because of how bad she fucked up.
It doesn't matter to her that she fucked up as a celebrity, and she's embarrassed and everyone is talking shit about her. It matters to her that she fucked up as a mom.
And what the rest of the moms should be doing out there, instead of being assholes and bullies about it, is they should be offering up kind words, and stories of their own missteps.
When other mothers fuck up, they should be taken under other mommy wings, and pampered. All mommy's fuck up and it hurts so bad when you realize you have.
There's so much anger in this world, so much materialistic bullshit. Jenny McCarthy fucked up. She blamed a group, an action, because her son was impaired, and she was pissed off, in a way only parents can be.
We do that type of shit everyday, but there's no one there to shine a Hollywood sized spot light on it.
So, what I'm saying is, If you're a mother, and you're making fun of Jenny McCarthy right now, tone it down a notch. You aren't any better because you're a mother, and now you're a bully.
So choose to do the right thing. Don't make fun of her for fucking up. Don't post on your Facebook about how she's a fuckup.
Send her some healing vibes. Post on your Facebook about how hard that must be and how sorry you feel.
Stop being such a dick. For fucks sake. UGH.
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